feat:support CUDA 13.0+ (deepmodeling#5017)

auto detect cuda version, if >= 13.0, set c++17

fix issue deepmodeling#5016 

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## Summary by CodeRabbit

* **Chores**
* Build now detects the installed CUDA Toolkit version and adjusts
configuration accordingly.
* Automatically selects C++17 for host/device compilation when CUDA
Toolkit 13.0+ is present.
* Emits clearer build status messages showing detected CUDA version and
chosen C++ standard.
* Maintains existing version checks and does not change runtime behavior
or public APIs.
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Signed-off-by: OutisLi <137472077+OutisLi@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: Copilot <175728472+Copilot@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: pre-commit-ci[bot] <66853113+pre-commit-ci[bot]@users.noreply.github.com>

Author: 3 people

source/CMakeLists.txt

@@ -246,6 +246,12 @@ set(DP_VARIANT "cpu")
 if(USE_CUDA_TOOLKIT)
   cmake_minimum_required(VERSION 3.25.2)
   find_package(CUDAToolkit REQUIRED)
+  # CUDA 13.0+ requires C++17
+  if(CUDAToolkit_VERSION VERSION_GREATER_EQUAL "13.0")
+    set_if_higher(CMAKE_CXX_STANDARD 17)
+    message(
+      STATUS "CUDA ${CUDAToolkit_VERSION} detected, setting C++ standard to 17")
+  endif()
   if(NOT DEFINED CMAKE_CUDA_COMPILER)
     set(CMAKE_CUDA_COMPILER ${CUDAToolkit_NVCC_EXECUTABLE})
   endif()

source/lib/src/gpu/CMakeLists.txt

@@ -26,7 +26,7 @@ if(USE_CUDA_TOOLKIT)
 
   # cub has been included in CUDA Toolkit 11, we do not need to include it any
   # more see https://github.com/NVIDIA/cub
-  if(${CMAKE_CUDA_COMPILER_VERSION} VERSION_LESS "11")
+  if(CMAKE_CUDA_COMPILER_VERSION VERSION_LESS "11")
     include(FetchContent)
     FetchContent_Declare(
       cub_download
@@ -39,10 +39,19 @@ if(USE_CUDA_TOOLKIT)
     endif()
     include_directories(${CUB_SOURCE_ROOT})
   endif()
-  if(${CMAKE_CUDA_COMPILER_VERSION} VERSION_LESS "9")
+  if(CMAKE_CUDA_COMPILER_VERSION VERSION_LESS "9")
     message(FATAL_ERROR "CUDA version must be >= 9.0")
   endif()
 
+  # CUDA 13.0+ requires C++17
+  if(CMAKE_CUDA_COMPILER_VERSION VERSION_GREATER_EQUAL "13.0")
+    set(CMAKE_CUDA_STANDARD 17)
+    message(
+      STATUS
+        "CUDA ${CMAKE_CUDA_COMPILER_VERSION} detected, setting C++ standard to 17"
+    )
+  endif()
+
   message(STATUS "NVCC version is " ${CMAKE_CUDA_COMPILER_VERSION})
 
   # arch will be configured by CMAKE_CUDA_ARCHITECTURES