feat: add package exclusion presets, enable default exclusion list (#2652)

This allows us to define multiple "exclude presets" such as the existing `yarn_autoclean` list,
but also a less aggressive one that we can enable by default and possibly others
for different use cases or strictness.

### Changes are visible to end-users: yes

- Searched for relevant documentation and updated as needed: yes
- Breaking change (forces users to change their own code or config): yes
- Suggested release notes appear below: yes

The default package content exclusion via
`npm_exclude_package_contents(use_defaults=True)` is now done using
`npm_exclude_package_contents(presets = ["yarn_autoclean"])`. A simpler
`"basic"` preset is available and enabled by default for all packages
unless overridden by a custom
`npm_exclude_package_contents(patterns|presets)`.

### Test plan

- Covered by existing test cases
- New test cases added

Author: jbedard

MODULE.bazel

@@ -287,12 +287,6 @@ npm.npm_translate_lock(
     npmrc = "//:.npmrc",
     pnpm_lock = "//:pnpm-lock.yaml",
 )
-
-# Configure package exclusions using tag class
-npm.npm_exclude_package_contents(
-    package = "chalk",
-    patterns = ["**/README*"],
-)
 use_repo(
     npm,
     "npm",

e2e/gyp_no_install_script/snapshots/segfault-handler_defs.bzl

@@ -23,14 +23,14 @@ npm.npm_translate_lock(
 )
 npm.npm_exclude_package_contents(
     package = "*",
-    use_defaults = True,
+    presets = ["yarn_autoclean"],
 )
 npm.npm_exclude_package_contents(
     package = "is-odd@3.0.1",
     patterns = [
         "**/README*",
         "**/LICENSE*",
     ],
-    use_defaults = True,
+    presets = ["yarn_autoclean"],
 )
 use_repo(npm, "npm")