fix(jax): fix the usage of jaxlib.xla_extension (deepmodeling#4824)

`jaxlib.xla_extension` has been removed in recent versions of JAX.

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## Summary by CodeRabbit

* **Refactor**
* Improved exception handling by updating error type checks and removing
an unnecessary dependency.

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Signed-off-by: Jinzhe Zeng <jinzhe.zeng@rutgers.edu>
Co-authored-by: pre-commit-ci[bot] <66853113+pre-commit-ci[bot]@users.noreply.github.com>

Author: njzjz

deepmd/jax/utils/auto_batch_size.py

@@ -1,6 +1,5 @@
 # SPDX-License-Identifier: LGPL-3.0-or-later
 
-import jaxlib
 
 from deepmd.jax.env import (
     jax,
@@ -52,7 +51,7 @@ def is_oom_error(self, e: Exception) -> bool:
         # several sources think CUSOLVER_STATUS_INTERNAL_ERROR is another out-of-memory error,
         # such as https://github.com/JuliaGPU/CUDA.jl/issues/1924
         # (the meaningless error message should be considered as a bug in cusolver)
-        if isinstance(e, (jaxlib.xla_extension.XlaRuntimeError, ValueError)) and (
+        if isinstance(e, (RuntimeError, ValueError)) and (
             "RESOURCE_EXHAUSTED:" in e.args[0]
         ):
             return True