Add GEMM-based standard SDPA benchmark

[kimishpatel]

Stack from ghstack (oldest at bottom):

• temp changes to enable benchmarking on device via adb #18719
• Add xplat cxx_binary target for bench_transposed_cache benchmark #18718
• Add non-flash SDPA path gated by ET_USE_UNFUSED_SDPA #18717
• Add ONNX Runtime GQA-style SDPA benchmark #18716
• Add GEMM-based standard SDPA benchmark and fix custom_sdpa_out signature #18715
• Support separate K/V seq dim in custom_sdpa op #18714
• Add --no_transposed_cache CLI flag for export pipeline #18713
• Plumb transposed cache config through export pipeline #18712
• Add benchmarks for transposed vs standard KV cache layout #18711
• temp hack #18710
• Add support for transposed kv cache in all variants of custom kv cache #18709
• Add contig requirement to aot binding for llm custom ops #18708
• Add support for seq at dim=2 #18707
• Make kv cache update op support transposed cache #18706
• Add xplat cxx_binary target for bench_sdpa #18705
• Use unfused SDPA for short sequences (q_len <= 128 or kv_len <= 128) #18651
• Limit softmax to causally-valid elements in cpu_sdpa #18650
• Add quantized input support to cpu_sdpa #18649
• [Executorch] Add non-flash SDPA for decode #18648
• Add ONNX Runtime GQA-style SDPA benchmark #18647
• -> Add GEMM-based standard SDPA benchmark #18646
• Fix SLEEF preprocessor macro name to match ATen vec headers #18645

Add bench_sdpa.cpp with a standalone GEMM-based SDPA implementation
(run_standard_sdpa) alongside ExecuTorch's tiled flash attention
(custom_sdpa_out) for comparative benchmarking.

The standalone SDPA uses full GEMM per head with 3-pass softmax and
supports both [B,S,H,D] and [B,H,S,D] layouts via BLAS leading
dimension parameters, allowing isolation of algorithm vs layout effects.

Includes validation tests that verify the GEMM-based implementation
matches custom_sdpa_out within tolerance.

Differential Revision: D96044313

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