diff --git a/rivetkit-rust/packages/rivetkit-core/src/actor/context.rs b/rivetkit-rust/packages/rivetkit-core/src/actor/context.rs
index de689d402c..514ff9646f 100644
--- a/rivetkit-rust/packages/rivetkit-core/src/actor/context.rs
+++ b/rivetkit-rust/packages/rivetkit-core/src/actor/context.rs
@@ -133,6 +133,7 @@ pub(crate) struct ActorContextInner {
 	destroy_completed: AtomicBool,
 	destroy_completion_notify: Notify,
 	abort_signal: CancellationToken,
+	shutdown_deadline: CancellationToken,
 	// Forced-sync: runtime wiring slots are configured through synchronous
 	// lifecycle setup and cloned before sending events.
 	inspector: RwLock<Option<Inspector>>,
@@ -228,6 +229,7 @@ impl ActorContext {
 		let lifecycle_event_inbox_capacity = config.lifecycle_event_inbox_capacity;
 		let state_save_interval = config.state_save_interval;
 		let abort_signal = CancellationToken::new();
+		let shutdown_deadline = CancellationToken::new();
 		let sleep = SleepState::new(config.clone());
 		let ctx = Self(Arc::new(ActorContextInner {
 			kv,
@@ -295,6 +297,7 @@ impl ActorContext {
 			destroy_completed: AtomicBool::new(false),
 			destroy_completion_notify: Notify::new(),
 			abort_signal,
+			shutdown_deadline,
 			inspector: RwLock::new(None),
 			inspector_attach_count: RwLock::new(None),
 			inspector_overlay_tx: RwLock::new(None),
@@ -465,6 +468,20 @@ impl ActorContext {
 		self.0.abort_signal.is_cancelled()
 	}
 
+	/// Fires when the shutdown grace deadline has elapsed and core is forcing
+	/// cleanup. Foreign-runtime adapters should abort any in-flight shutdown
+	/// work (for example `onSleep` / `onDestroy`) when this token is cancelled
+	/// so resources like SQLite are not torn down mid-operation.
+	#[doc(hidden)]
+	pub fn shutdown_deadline_token(&self) -> CancellationToken {
+		self.0.shutdown_deadline.clone()
+	}
+
+	#[doc(hidden)]
+	pub fn cancel_shutdown_deadline(&self) {
+		self.0.shutdown_deadline.cancel();
+	}
+
 	/// Deprecated no-op. Use `keep_awake` to hold the actor awake for the
 	/// duration of a future, or `wait_until` to keep work alive across the
 	/// sleep grace period. Retained only for NAPI bridge compatibility.
diff --git a/rivetkit-rust/packages/rivetkit-core/src/actor/task.rs b/rivetkit-rust/packages/rivetkit-core/src/actor/task.rs
index 54150bafa8..d618ede5c2 100644
--- a/rivetkit-rust/packages/rivetkit-core/src/actor/task.rs
+++ b/rivetkit-rust/packages/rivetkit-core/src/actor/task.rs
@@ -1489,6 +1489,7 @@ impl ActorTask {
 		if let Some(run_handle) = self.run_handle.as_mut() {
 			run_handle.abort();
 		}
+		self.ctx.cancel_shutdown_deadline();
 		self.ctx.record_shutdown_timeout(grace.reason);
 		tracing::warn!(
 			reason = shutdown_reason_label(grace.reason),
diff --git a/rivetkit-typescript/packages/rivetkit-napi/src/napi_actor_events.rs b/rivetkit-typescript/packages/rivetkit-napi/src/napi_actor_events.rs
index f4f4222fb8..66e28bdef0 100644
--- a/rivetkit-typescript/packages/rivetkit-napi/src/napi_actor_events.rs
+++ b/rivetkit-typescript/packages/rivetkit-napi/src/napi_actor_events.rs
@@ -584,27 +584,40 @@ pub(crate) async fn dispatch_event(
 				rivetkit_core::actor::StopReason::Destroy => bindings.on_destroy.clone(),
 			};
 			let ctx = ctx.clone();
+			let shutdown_deadline = ctx.inner().shutdown_deadline_token();
 			tasks.spawn(async move {
-				let result: Result<()> = async {
-					if let Some(callback) = callback {
-						match reason {
-							rivetkit_core::actor::StopReason::Sleep => {
-								call_on_sleep(&callback, &ctx).await
-							}
-							rivetkit_core::actor::StopReason::Destroy => {
-								call_on_destroy(&callback, &ctx).await
-							}
-						}?;
+				let work = async {
+					let result: Result<()> = async {
+						if let Some(callback) = callback {
+							match reason {
+								rivetkit_core::actor::StopReason::Sleep => {
+									call_on_sleep(&callback, &ctx).await
+								}
+								rivetkit_core::actor::StopReason::Destroy => {
+									call_on_destroy(&callback, &ctx).await
+								}
+							}?;
+						}
+						Ok(())
+					}
+					.await;
+					if let Err(error) = result {
+						tracing::error!(
+							actor_id = %ctx.inner().actor_id(),
+							?error,
+							"graceful cleanup callback failed",
+						);
+					}
+				};
+				tokio::select! {
+					_ = work => {}
+					_ = shutdown_deadline.cancelled() => {
+						tracing::warn!(
+							actor_id = %ctx.inner().actor_id(),
+							reason = ?reason,
+							"graceful cleanup aborted by shutdown grace deadline",
+						);
 					}
-					Ok(())
-				}
-				.await;
-				if let Err(error) = result {
-					tracing::error!(
-						actor_id = %ctx.inner().actor_id(),
-						?error,
-						"graceful cleanup callback failed",
-					);
 				}
 				reply.send(Ok(()));
 			});