[cherry-pick] Support react-native 0.81 (#3607) (#3688)

## Description

This PR cherry-pick #3607 into `next` branch. It also adds necessary `target_compile_reactnative_options` function to `CMakeLists`.

>[!CAUTION]
> There are to problems in the example app:
> 1. Right now `metro` server does not start. This is due to wrong import and this change will be also cherry-picked from `main`.
> 2. `NativeDetector` crashes on `Reanimated`. However, this should not be related to these changes and I'll investigate it in a follow-up.

## Test plan

Check that `basic-example` builds on both, `iOS` and `android`

Author: m-bert

apps/basic-example/android/build.gradle

@@ -1,9 +1,9 @@
 buildscript {
     ext {
-        buildToolsVersion = "35.0.0"
+        buildToolsVersion = "36.0.0"
         minSdkVersion = 24
-        compileSdkVersion = 35
-        targetSdkVersion = 35
+        compileSdkVersion = 36
+        targetSdkVersion = 36
         ndkVersion = "27.1.12297006"
         kotlinVersion = "2.1.20"
         isGHExampleApp = true

apps/basic-example/android/gradle.properties

@@ -37,3 +37,8 @@ newArchEnabled=true
 # Use this property to enable or disable the Hermes JS engine.
 # If set to false, you will be using JSC instead.
 hermesEnabled=true
+
+# Use this property to enable edge-to-edge display support.
+# This allows your app to draw behind system bars for an immersive UI.
+# Note: Only works with ReactActivity and should not be used with custom Activity.
+edgeToEdgeEnabled=false

apps/basic-example/android/gradle/wrapper/gradle-wrapper.properties

@@ -1,6 +1,6 @@
 distributionBase=GRADLE_USER_HOME
 distributionPath=wrapper/dists
-distributionUrl=https\://services.gradle.org/distributions/gradle-8.14.1-bin.zip
+distributionUrl=https\://services.gradle.org/distributions/gradle-8.14.3-bin.zip
 networkTimeout=10000
 validateDistributionUrl=true
 zipStoreBase=GRADLE_USER_HOME